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BDSM and the perpetual victim

We have all seen them, they are always seeking sympathy for their real or imagined problems. Often these types will seek out trouble in order to have something to gain pity for. All the problems are someone else's fault, never their own.

The lifestyle has plenty of these, often times I think there are more people like this in the lifestyle than there are in "normal" society. What about the lifestyle draws these people, seems we are all fucked up in some way, the victims, the liers, the cheats, the white knights, the sadists, the masochists, predators, and other self esteem issues.

A good dominant is going to have the strong urge to help a victim, real or imagined. This is a good thing, it shows we care, but unfortunately those in a victim mentality will come to the dominant for help again and again, and this becomes a burden.

So, what do we do about them? I wish I knew, best I can think of is to quit enabling them, but that requires learning to recognize them early on. I have fallen victim to them far too many times, if anyone knows how to deal with them, please let me know. I am tired of riding in on my white horse and getting used.

Comments (0) June 28, 2009 (10:56am)

Just having fun...

We have all heard it "I'm just having a little fun", usually associated with someone doing something REALLY stupid, be it drugs, drinking to excess, dangerous stunts, etc. We hear it all the time, yet some people still live their life like there is no tomorrow, and unfortunately for them, there often is a tomorrow filled with pain and suffering because they destroyed their body or finances having fun the day before.

"One trouble with trouble is that is usually starts out like fun" - Anonymous

Having fun is a balancing act, like most else in life, anything taken to excess is a bad thing, we all know it. An occasional drink is good for your body, a dozen drinks makes you stupid. Eating a well balanced diet is good for you, eating a few 2,000 calorie burgers is gonna screw you up.

I have at times been describes as a "stick in the mud" or assorted other terms that mean the same thing. Of course I did not take it much to heart since the person calling me those things considered going to the beach on a sunny and windy day and getting pummeled by the waves all day, coming home with a body full of sun burn, bruises and cuts that lasted for weeks "fun". Nope, that is not fun in my book, stupid yes, fun no. Fun to me is something sustainable, if it leaves you in poor condition long term, that crosses the line into stupid.

I try to focus on activities that are more sustainable, be that fun or profitable activities, if they leave you worse off in the long run, are they really worth it?

"Live life fully while you're here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Go out and screw up! You're going to anyway, so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate it. Don't try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human." - Anthony Robbins

Comments (0) June 15, 2009 (12:53pm)

Back up

Well, the House of Wyrd site is back up.

I realize some people may not agree with what is done at events, however it is behind closed doors, no crimes are being committed, no one is being seduced or corrupted. However if anyone in the community would like to learn more about what does go on, they are welcome to contact me.